When I downloaded Tinder again a week or so before Christmas, I set up some ground rules for myself that I thought would make it a better experience. 1 – No Tinder-ing when I was feeling lonely/desperate, 2 – I would try initiating some of the conversations this time, and 3 – I wasn’t allowed to keep talking to someone just to be nice if I’d decided I didn’t want to go on a date with them.
These rules made Tinder a much more pleasant experience for me. Also, it seemed that I managed to catch some “golden window” of Tinder opportunity. Perhaps the holiday season brought more options to Tinder because of family dating pressure? Who knows. But within the first month of 2015, I went on quite a few great dates with really, really good guys.
I clearly remember swiping right on Matt. He didn’t even have a bio posted, just a picture of him holding a fish he’d caught. I guess I decided he was attractive enough that I could give him a chance without the bio. Plus, he just looked genuinely good. We matched, he initiated conversation, and we chatted off and on for maybe a week or so.
There was also another Tinder guy who I was particularly interested in at the time. We had become friends on Facebook, which meant that I could see through Tinder that he also knew Matt. I started to pay more attention to this other guy and less attention to Tinder. I also intentionally let my conversation with Matt fizzle because I wanted to date his friend and I didn’t want them to end up at a party together and talk about me and assume I was on some mission to date all the boys from their high school who were on Tinder.